Thursday, October 30, 2025

Your prayers made the difference!!!

 Thanks sooo much for your prayers yesterday! Today I am well enough to travel to see my chiropractor and get groceries.  As always, I love to share a poem and/or a song to express what I'm going through.

A Heart of Gratitude

O Lord, my heart is full of praise,
For answered prayers through all my days.
Your mercy flows, Your love so true,
Each whispered prayer, You always knew.

When storms arose and shadows fell,
You heard my cries, You knew me well.
Your guiding hand, Your gentle care,
Reminded me You’re always there.

For blessings seen and those concealed,
For every wound Your grace has healed,
I lift my voice, my thanks to bring,
To You, my Savior, my everything.

Forever grateful, Lord, I’ll be,
For prayers You’ve answered faithfully.
In every moment, joy or strife,
Your love sustains my soul and life.


Isn't that beautiful?  Your love sustains my soul and life!!  He certainly does!!

I thought of this song, too, as it's been special to Robert and I since our first Thanksgiving as parents.  

My parents, Robert, and I with child traveled to Milwaukee, WI for Thanksgiving.  My dad's sister's family lived there and they were hosting the family gathering that year.  

My uncle took us to this huge church on Thanksgiving morning.  There was a black woman who sang WE ARE SO BLESSED.  It gives me thrills to this day and that was 38 years ago.  Robert and I sat there and cried as we pondered all of the blessings God had showered us with and now a new one--a child of our own!!

May this post thrill you as you ponder how richly blessed the children of God are!!

Lots of love,

Dawn

Wednesday, October 29, 2025

OH NO. I'm getting SICK! uggggg

   

Today I'm not feeling well.  I'm so bummed as it's the day our neighborhood ladies meet for our monthly tea party.  I woke up feeling just fine and even told our elderly neighbor that I would take her home from tea. Then, a couple of hours after I woke up, my stomach started churning.  OH NO.

  I thought it may just be emotional digestive upset but I took some charcoal capsules just to rule that out.  When that didn't work, I knew that I had to stay home.  If this is a bug, the last thing I want to do is spread it around the neighborhood.  I then asked another neighbor to take the eldest in our group home after the tea party ended.  It's so nice to be a part of such a caring community!!

  What did I do instead?  I rested.  I did a castor oil pack to my abdomen.  I asked my friends for prayer.  Now I'm feeling better but I'm still glad I stayed home. Being I live in such a rural area, though, not having that contact with my neighbors has left me feeling discouraged.

  I decided to search for some info on ways to get through sickness as quickly as possible and found this.  Yes, our Lord cares about our miseries!  That alone is comforting.  If the Holy Spirit asks you to pray for me, I would be honored.  Also, please pray for my family as there is a nasty bug making it's way through.  UGGGG

  Please help us, Lord!

  Dawn 




5 Real Ways to Access God’s Strength When You’re Sick

Illness is a part of life, and whether we are suffering from a short-term sickness, chronic problems, something insignificant, or something life-changing, we need God’s strength when we are weak. However, sickness can come with fatigue, mental strain, and numerous limitations. How can we be sure that we are still accessing the strength of our Lord when our human bodies are failing us?

Here are five ways to seek God and be filled with his strength when you are under the weather.

1. Read His Promises

The Bible speaks to sickness and healing through stories and specific scriptures. Do a word study on healing, sickness, or other similar words and concepts. Read stories of God’s care for the sick and injured. Remembering what He has done will encourage you in your own trial with illness. It will also provide hope and keep your mind on His ability instead of your weakness. Journal His promises and write down memories of His faithfulness.

Jeremiah 30:17 For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord.

2. Embrace Your Weakness

Remember that ultimately, God is the one who works in us to do anything. In order to access His strength, you need to stop striving on your own. Let your body rest. Don’t try to go on in your own strength, or you may end up in a worse situation than you already find yourself. Take care of yourself physically and do what is practically necessary for your recovery, knowing that you can not do it all, nor does God expect you to. Read or listen to stories of others who have endured illness and been sustained by God.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

3. Seek His Help

Pray specifically to the Lord for comfort, healing, and wisdom for how to manage your illness. Ask Him to ease your anxieties and to manage the difficulties associated with the illness. Pray in Jesus’ name and in His will, and He promises to answer. God has also provided the body of Christ as a means of help. Seek them out. Accept help from them through prayer and hands-on assistance. He has created minds that understand medicine. He has created natural remedies and created remedies. Seek all His means of help in your illness. Ask your church or close friends for prayer or physical assistance.

Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.

5. Trust His Wisdom

God knows how your body works and what is wrong with it. He knows how long you will be sick, how you will feel, and even how to heal you. Trust in this in order to avoid fear. Remember that His timing is also perfect. Offer up your sickness to the Lord and ask Him to do His will in it. If you are spending more time sitting, seek His wisdom by taking extra time to study His Word.

Proverbs 2:6 For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.

God is the great physician who will come “with healing in his wings,” and we can access that healing, whether physical, mental, or emotional. Our minds can transcend our body’s capacity when we lean on the one who created them in the first place. Our strength may be limited, but His is not. Praise the Lord.

Tuesday, October 28, 2025

Good Riddance to Problems

 It's been a stressful week so I LOVED these thoughts.  God wants EVERY PART OF US to be free!

 My son's family has been very sick so it's hard to stay calm.  Also we're trying to get harvesting done.  It's been raining which is a harvest killer as you can't take the grain wet or it will spoil.  

  Between the rain and combine problems it was a pretty rotten week last week.  Then, when things finally dried out, the wind picked up like CRAZY!  It's dangerous to combine in fierce winds because the wind can blow the chaff up on the hot engine and start a fire.  ):

  I asked my Facebook friends to pray for protection from fires and my guys worked until 10:00 PM and got that quarter done.  We woke to rain Monday morning so everyone was glad they persevered.  

  Now we're about half done harvesting!  As the Lord leads you, we can sure use more prayers.  The temps are dropping now.  Tonight it's supposed to get down to 26 degrees.  I know that it's almost November but warm weather makes everything nicer when you're working outside.

  My other big news is that my mother-in-law has decided that she's ready to move into an assisted living facility nearby us.  She'll be 92 next month and has been doing well living alone.  She's in a retirement community, so there are others around her, but she's getting weaker and a bit forgetful.  We're looking forward to having her closer to us so we can bring her to our house for family events much easier.

  That's all my news for now.  I pray this message blesses you as much as it has me!  We can give our problems to God and see how He works for our good.  I kept praying that HE would calm the winds but, when that didn't happen, I asked Him to protect our combine and, of course, our family members working to bring in the harvest.  HE ALWAYS BLESSES US ONE WAY OR ANOTHER!

  Have a good week in the King's presence. 

  Much love,

  Dawn


I Hear His Whisper...

I want every part of you to be free.

I want you to be one with me—living in union with me. Allow yourself to be fully consumed with me—spirit, mind, and body. I want you to sense my presence in your spirit, your mind, and your body. I am as close as your next breath.

 

I want every part of you to be free. When your mind is consumed with your problems, you’re not experiencing the fullness of my love. I want you to find true freedom in complete oneness with me. So focus your thoughts and your mind on me. Trust me and completely resign your will to mine. Release your cares into my hands. I want to take your burdens and worries from you. Let me have control, and you will finally experience the freedom and unity in me. Let me give you the peace you long for and desire.

 

I Hear His Whisper written by Brian Simmons and Gretchen Rodriguez

Romans 8:6

The Passion Translation

 

The sense and reason of the flesh is death, but the mind-set controlled by the Spirit finds life and peace.

Tuesday, October 21, 2025

Who are your people?

 When we moved here 22 years ago, we weren't welcomed into the community.  The lady who owned this farm before us was praying for a Christian family to buy her farm.  We were praying for a farm to buy.  God brought us together.

  So why weren't we welcomed into the community?  Well, this is a farm community and everyone values acres.  The more acres a farmer has access to (owned or rented) the more crops he can grow.  The less acres he has access to, the less crops he can grow.  DA right?

  Well, after we met the wonderful woman of God who was selling this farm, she told us that the neighboring farmers had been approaching her ever since she listed the farm for sale.  Each one asked her to sell them the piece that was closest to their farms.  This is normal and, I suppose, natural.

  However, when she told her neighbors that she wouldn't sell them that piece, they were NOT HAPPY!  She explained that it was a family farm and she wanted it to stay a family farm.  She wanted the farm to be kept together into the one unit that she and her husband had built over a lifetime.  She wanted people living in the house and using the buildings.  She wanted a Christian family to keep the farm together.

  So, when we met and found we were all fellow believers in Christ, we clicked.  We hit it off right away.  She was happy.  We were happy.

  When God opened the door financially for us to buy Gladys's farm, we were overjoyed.  However, when the neighbors got wind of it, their welcome mats were withdrawn.  );

  There was one older and wiser farm wife, Frannie, who had the courage to go against the flow even though her husband was one of the farmers giving us the cold shoulder.  Frannie welcomed us and started the practice of neighborhood tea parties which we continue to this day.  A couple of years later, Frannie moved to Heaven and the tea parties floundered.

  However, God wanted them to continue and He had our neighbor marry a woman named Shirley.  If you can believe this, Shirley RESTARTED the neighborhood monthly tea parties.  They are the highlight of my month as we ladies host in each other's homes and build our community.

  A few years later, Shirley and I started the neighborhood ladies Bible study which is THE best fellowship I have.  We pray with and for each other.  Later we started a text group where we can share prayer requests as they come up without having to wait until we can meet again.   We support each other with our prayers when they are needed most.  We celebrate answered prayers, too and continue building our community.

  There are about 10 women and 6 children present each month. I love visiting their homes and having them in mine.  I LOVE our community so this word today was confirmation that we need each other!!

  If you don't have a local circle of friends, then I would urge you to host a tea party and invite those living nearby.  You'll be surprised how many will come to a tea party!  You men can go out for coffee together. The point is that we aren't' meant to live on a deserted island!  We need each other.

  I hope you enjoy today's email from THE PASSION TRANSLATION team.  They are such a blessing to me!

 Dawn




I Hear His Whisper...

It is important that you find your people.

I want you to surround yourself with people who encourage and support you—those who not only see the gold in you, but call out the hidden treasure. Beloved, you deserve to have people who will walk alongside you to support you, to walk with you through difficulties, and to help make you a better person.

 

You are worthy of deep and meaningful friendships and mentors. You also have much to share with others. If you are in a place where you don’t feel valued or supported, if you haven’t found your group of like-minded people, ask me for direction. I will lead you to those you’ll love getting to know. I’ll also need you to do your part to step out and interact with them. Don’t neglect the opportunities I place before you. There are seasons when you may feel that no one understands you, seasons when I’ve set you apart in order for you to come away and grow in me. But there are also times for you to dive into community and friendships. It’s time to find your people!

 

I Hear His Whisper written by Brian Simmons and Gretchen Rodriguez

Proverbs 18:24

The Passion Translation

 

Some friendships don’t last for long, but there is one loving friend who is joined to your heart closer than any other!

Friday, October 17, 2025

Can I say that?

 This article is for me as well as others who may need this info.  

  My daughter and her family are on their way here for an early Thanksgiving.  Was this what I wanted?  No, Thanksgiving is my favorite day of the entire year and it's been the only holiday I have with my whole family together.

  My daughter sold 3 of her Basset Hound puppies into Dakota so she has to come to deliver them.  That's why we're having an early Thanksgiving with her family and her mother-in-law who is kind enough to drive them the 6 hour journey.  I really like her so I'm glad she's coming too.

  With the vast differences in my 3 children and their views on politics and civic involvement, there are certain things I know better than to bring up for discussion.  Their are food differences.  There are attire differences.....

  So I looked for some help and found this article.  I hope that it will bless someone besides me.

  Happy family gatherings.

  Dawn 

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Some families are easy. Everyone finds it easy to get along, easy to have fun doing things together, and easy to work out problems. Unfortunately, I don’t know any families like that, but theoretically, they must exist.

A family gathering or reunion might be with your family of origin – or it might be with a different family or community you have decided to create or to join. Some extended families get together for every holiday and celebration, some for major events, some once a year, and some once every ten years. No matter whom the reunion is for and no matter how seldom or how often this happens, people have frequently tell us things like:

“I keep telling myself I won’t get sucked in this time – and then I do get sucked in!”

“I look forward to getting together with a combination of anticipation – and dread!”

“We live in hope that this time it will be easier because we love each other and want to have fun together 
— but something always goes wrong!”

So why bother? Why go to the inconvenience and trouble of getting together with our often difficult families? This is a good question, because a family reunion can cause a lot of stress and bad feelings. The answer is that, with some good luck and good planning, a family gathering can be a time to have fun, build and strengthen relationships, and provide a network of support in a sometimes large and lonely world.

For any group, here are some things to keep in mind in order to make gatherings great instead of awful:

1. Embrace the Mixed Bag

The reality is that life is a mixed bag. People are a mixed bag. Family is a mixed bag. And, each of us is a mixed bag! Unless someone’s behavior is dangerous or destructive, embrace the fact that most families and most people are a mixture of kind and unkind, helpful and unhelpful, healthy and unhealthy. None of us is perfect.

It is hurtful to your purpose of getting the family together if you leave someone out because you don’t like their political beliefs, choice of romantic partner, or past comments that you never addressed but still resent. Define which part of the group you are organizing this event for – and then be inclusive in your invitation. Everyone who is strongly connected by family or romantic ties to the members should be welcomed, unless that person is truly very dangerous.

Years ago, advice columnist Ann Landers offered a wise, timeless question in response to readers asking if she thought they should get a divorce. Ann’s question was, “Are you better off with your spouse or without them?”

Ask yourself, “Am I better off with these people or without them? Is someone I love connected with these people in such a way that it is better for me to go to a family gathering or not?” If you decide to attend or organize a reunion, then find ways to make the best of the time together.

2. Be Proactive: Prevent Problems

Define clear expectations and put them into writing ahead of time. Address issues such as:

  • Who will be paying how much for what?
  • Where will people stay? For how long? If it’s your home, what are your house rules?
  • Who will be responsible for helping to do what when?
  • How will children be supervised?
  • How will transportation be handled?
  • How will food be handled?
  • What animals will or will not be present? How will they be cared for?
  • What are the safety rules about driving, smoking, drinking, etc.?
  • How will physical, mental, and emotional health needs be cared for – ranging from ability access to boundaries about contagious illnesses to allergies to sleep to any other specific needs in your group?

3. Make an Emotional Safety Plan

Practice your emotional safety skills – on your own as well as with children and others in your care. Use Kidpower’s Twelve Emotional Safety Skills for All Ages to help yourselves prepare! Think about and discuss ahead of time how to prevent and resolve problems. Common pitfalls to avoid are:

  • Upsetting discussions.  A useful ground rule could be that we calmly agree to disagree, but we will NOT attack each other for having different beliefs, remembering things differently, or being different than we wish. It is okay to ask that a subject be dropped or changed. Using a calm, assertive attitude makes it more likely people will listen – see Assertive Advocacy Skills
  •  The temptation to get even with others, to improve others, or to complain. Agree that your gathering will NOT be a time to rehash old hurts or complain or tease about someone’s life choices; etc. etc. Rather than complaining, agree to respect each other’s different points of view – and, if there is a problem that needs to be addressed, to problem-solve and offer to help rather than complaining about anyone.
  • Disagreements about supervision of children. If you are a child’s parent or guardian, take responsibility for staying in charge of that child’s safety and behavior. Ask rather than assume if you want someone else to supervise. Be sure your child is being safe and respectful with the environment, other children, and any animals. Unless you truly have permission or you must step in to prevent an emergency, do not try to supervise other people’s children.
  • Falling into old patterns. Negative old family dynamics can often ruin a good time. Remember that people can grow and change. Don’t assume that they are the same. Remember that teasing remarks can hurt, even if everyone laughs. Focus on the positive in what people are doing rather than the negative. Tell yourself good stories about intentions rather than bad stories. Stay aware of your own patterns. The needs to be important, to be right, to be needed, and to be useful can all be very positive in their place – but have harmful consequences if these needs get in the way of our being in the moment, being respectful of others, and staying mindful of what is actually going on.

The reality is that you cannot control what everyone will say or do. You can only stay in charge of yourself and of any children in your care. One person told us a strategy that works for them is to pretend that people are saying something different when they are being insulting. Another suggests making a list of the disrespectful or upsetting things you think different people are likely to do. Then, when it happens, you can say “Ah ha!” to yourself and count them rather than getting hurt. Some find it helpful to imagine phrases, sayings, mantras, or prayers they find meaningful or that help them feel centered, such as the ‘Serenity Prayer’ commonly associated with Alcoholics Anonymous: “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference!”

4. Make Realistic Plans About Logistics

Meeting the needs of different people can be very challenging. People have different ideas about what jokes or activities are fun or not fun; different kinds of health challenges; and different tastes. Remember that your primary goal is to get family members together in a safe and enjoyable way that builds strong, healthy relationships. Here are logistics to consider:

  • Timing. You won’t find a time that works for everyone, but try to find a time that is possible for most people. Be creative and flexible. For example, can children miss one day of school in order to have a better chance of more comfortable weather?
  • Location. If the location is someone’s home, be sure that needs and boundaries are clear ahead of time. If you are choosing a location, think about whether everyone in your group can get there if they want to. Be aware of and plan for people’s potential problems with elevation, heat, cold, noise (from snoring, different times of waking up or going to sleep), uncomfortable beds, allergies, food, etc. Plan for bad weather, just in case. If possible, find a place that most people will feel is fun to go to.
  • Activities. Since your purpose is to get people together, have a place to gather with food and drinks where everyone can sit down comfortably. Nothing has to be fancy, and people don’t have to fit around one table, but you do want people to have the sense of being at the same time in the same place. Your space could be a large room or even outside if the weather is good. Have a variety of optional activities for different people to do besides sitting and looking at each other. Encourage people to split up and go out to do different things together.
  • Meals. Plan to have food and drinks available where people are gathering. Schedule at least some meals where people can sit together. Try to have food that everyone will enjoy, but allow for different tastes. If you enjoy cooking elegant meals, that’s great, but otherwise, make your life simple and just gather fresh, tasty food that people are likely to want to eat.

5. Prevent Accidents, Fights, and Illnesses

Family gatherings can sometimes feel like occasions for letting the rules go. The reality is that things can go from delightful to terrible in an instant. Someone gets injured. A child gets lost. Someone goes to the emergency room with food poisoning or a severe allergic reaction. The cold that one person has spreads to the whole group. The teenager who just got a license gets distracted while driving and crashes the car. An argument erupts where people say terrible things to each other or even get into physical fights. Some problems like these are unavoidable, but most can be prevented if you:

  • Use good hygiene. Wash your hands and remind everyone to do the same. Often. With soap. Before touching food. After using the bathroom. Cover a cough or sneeze with your elbow rather than your hand. Unless you’ve just washed your hands, avoid touching your face or the faces of others. If you or your child starts to get sick, protect other family members by keeping some physical distance and being even more careful about hand washing.
  • Ask people about allergies ahead of time and treat them with respect. Keep allergic substances away from allergic people. If even one person is allergic to something like dogs, cats, peanuts, room deodorizer, perfume, smoke, or onions, this person must be protected from exposure to the allergen.
  • Follow safe food handling and preparation practices. Don’t assume that everyone will know what these are. Either have experienced people handling your food, or provide guidance to someone who is not experienced.
  • Post signs as reminders about potential problems rather than just hoping people will remember. For example: Wash hands before food prep. Wash food carefully. Put perishables back in the refrigerator. Keep all peanuts out of the house. Dog free zone.
  • Supervise children until they have demonstrated a consistent ability to supervise themselves. If children are in a new place, this is terrific, but they might find hazards that would never have occurred to you. When many adults are potentially in charge, often no one is in charge. Be clear about handoffs, so that there is no doubt about who is supervising each child at each moment. Even if you are going back to a place that even teens have visited each year, have them tell you all the rules again for each activity, such as not diving when you cannot see the bottom of the lake. See the Kidpower article on Resisting The Illusion of Safety.
  • Use alcohol safely. Moderate enjoyment of alcoholic beverages is an important part of many family gatherings. Be realistic about potential problems. Accidents and arguments become far more likely when one or more people use alcohol or drugs to the point that they lose control of their behavior. If you know certain family members are likely to overindulge, make a plan ahead of time to keep them off the road, out of trouble, and away from children. Agree ahead of time that explosive topics will be avoided. Make sure that no one feels pressure to drink in order to belong. The potential problems with recreational drug use are similar and, of course, it is usually illegal.
  • Drive safely. Be sure that drivers stay focused on their driving while driving, do not speed, are not incapacitated, insist on passengers using seatbelts or appropriate booster seats or car seats for children, etc. Give passengers permission to speak up if someone’s driving makes them uncomfortable.
  • Be sensible and safe about sexual behavior. Sometimes members in some families enjoy joking or teasing about sex.  If you know this is true in your family, make ground rules ahead of time to avoid tension when people are together.  Agree that innuendos, flirting, or suggestive behavior should be okay with everyone present and that anyone can speak up if she or he feels uncomfortable. If there are children, agree that people will avoid suggestive behavior or language in front of them. Kids notice far more than adults think. Ask people to use good judgment even if they feel really attracted to someone. A family gathering is a great way to get to know someone better but is a terrible time to start a romantic relationship. If someone is destined to become the love of your life, you can make friends at the gathering and meet privately later if both of you still want to.

Remember Kidpower’s Underlying Principle that “Safety is more important than anyone’s embarrassment, inconvenience, or offense!” – and act accordingly to Put Safety First!

6. Use Boundary and Communication Skills

Use family gatherings as an opportunity to practice good manners and to use respectful and effective communication skills. Help with the planning and logistics. Suggest activities. Listen to the ideas and needs of others. Ask questions and listen to the answers. Speak up. Be prepared to change the plan when it’s not working for you or others. Do your best to:

  • Make it easy and practical for everyone to help in ways that work for them. Organize jobs so they are manageable rather than overwhelming. Set people up for success. Be patient rather than annoyed if someone needs specific directions for how to do a specific task.
  • Remember – others can NOT read your mind and WILL miss messages. Take responsibility for speaking up clearly and repeatedly about your needs. If you think something is important, and you fail to speak up in a clear and repeated way, don’t blame anyone but yourself for the fact that your wishes or concerns were not heard.
  • Be safe with touch, teasing, and games. Kidpower’s safety rule is that touch, teasing, or games for fun or affection should be the choice of each person, safe, allowed by the adults in charge, and never a secret. Be sure that children and adults all understand and know how to follow this rule. If you are not sure, supervise their activities and step in when needed. See articles: Touch in Healthy Relationships and Why Affection and Teasing Should Be A Child’s ChoiceConsider printing and posting the Boundary and Consent Checklist.
  • Let people know if their actions or words are hurtful. Don’t assume that people don’t care just because they don’t notice or listen at first. Don’t wait until you are furious or vent to others instead of letting this person know. If someone says or does something you find hurtful, say so respectfully without attacking their character or intentions. See Speaking Up About Put-Downs.
  • Make it safe for people to give you feedback. Most of us don’t like being told what to do or that we did something hurtful or wrong. But not being told when our behavior upsets others deprives us of the chance to grow or to change behavior that might be damaging to our relationships. Do your best to listen. Try not to punish someone who is brave enough to give you feedback by sulking, refusing to speak to the person, getting upset with the person for telling you that the remark was hurtful, complaining to others about the person, or overly apologizing to the point that it does not sound genuine. See article: Conscious Apologies.
  • Know when and how to interrupt. Some family members don’t talk at all. You can encourage them by leaving space for them to say something and asking respectful (not intrusive) questions. Other family members have a tendency at times to talk A LOT and might not pause long enough for someone else to get a word in edgewise. Sometimes what we are saying is very interesting, but sometimes it is too much of a good thing – and sometimes boring or even upsetting. Make an agreement that it is okay to interrupt someone who talks a lot mid-word and that you don’t have to wait for the story or topic to be finished. People can be given permission to say, “Excuse me. I’d like a chance to say something.” Or, “Excuse me, we’ve talked enough on this topic. I’d like to talk about something else. ” Or, “Excuse me, this topic upsets me. Please change the subject.” Or, “Excuse me, I need to go do something else. “ and leave and go do something else, even if it is sitting outside for a little while.
  • Be mindful about the impact of what you say and do. South Indian spiritual leader Sri Sathya Sai Baba advises, “Before you speak, think – Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?” Don’t complain about people behind their backs instead of raising concerns directly. See articles: Integrity in Communication and Five Communication Strategies That I Already Know – But Forget to Use.

7. Appreciate and Celebrate

Getting diverse family members together and having a mostly good time is a triumph that deserves to be celebrated and remembered long after it is over. A successful event takes a lot of work that should not be taken for granted.

Often the individuals who take leadership in organizing gatherings can be annoying, because overcoming the obstacles of getting people together takes a lot of energy. Even if they are annoying, let the people you love know how much you appreciate them. Imagine that you might never get another chance to tell them, and make sure that you really do it! Show appreciation by:

  • Thanking each person in a very specific way for their individual contributions – clearly and repeatedly. Remember that getting there and being present for one person can be as much of a challenge as cooking a six-course meal is for another.
  • Giving much more air time in what you say about what went well than about what you were unhappy about or would like to see changed. If you say “thank you” briefly and generally and then give a lengthy detailed description of what you think was wrong, don’t be surprised if someone ends up feeling unappreciated.
  • Taking lots of photos to help everyone enjoy good memories about the event after it’s over – but make sure the photos are fun rather than hurtful. Try to get them out quickly – but, soon or later, do be sure to get them out. Check first before sharing photos in social media or other online spaces. Make sure you have the permission of the individual, or, if a child is a minor, the child’s parents.
  • Offering to help plan the next event. Give your ideas for what might be fun to do. Rather than complaining, give specific suggestions about how to do things in a better way. Offer to help to make that happen.

When people gather in a mutually respectful, safe, and joyful way, the time together can make a huge difference in creating deeper connections, developing stronger relationships, and making lasting memories that warm our hearts throughout our lives. These reminders and preparation can seem like a lot of work. However, some groundwork on the front end can save a world of trouble on the back end. We hope you will try these ideas out and would love to hear your stories about what works and what doesn’t – as well as any ideas you have! We are always happy to hear from you at safety@kidpower.org.

Happy November everyone!