Seeding on the farm continues. Last night the guys drug in here for supper at 10:00 after a LONG day in the field. They had several breakdowns which slowed them down. My men, being expert "Fixers," got everything running again but then had to make up for lost time. I covet your prayers for a safe and successful Spring seeding.
Here lately the Lord has been showing me a new tool in my work. I'm not sure if it will make much sense to anyone but I share in case some practitioner out there in cyber world needs to know this.
So, you may recall that since I started using Splankna two years ago, I've been doing work with vanished twins. This is when there are 2 children in the womb and one of them dies. The weaker one dies and the stronger one limps on alone.
The survivor of these separated twins truly does limp. They feel guilty for living when their twin died beside them as they continued to live. My work has shown me that this problem is pervasive as 42% of pregnancies have this happen to them. The true tragedy is the surviving twin who has no support as most of the time the death is not recognized.
In my last pregnancy that produced a live child, I experienced this but wrote it off as "Midwife error." For 3 months, the heartbeats indicated twins. Then, at the next monthly checkup, my very expert midwife listened and listened and listened. Finally she said, "I must have been wrong. There is only one heartbeat now."
Could a midwife of decades who listened to hundreds, if not thousands, of heartbeats be wrong? Yes, she WAS wrong in that she was unaware of the vanished twin syndrome. I was carrying twins and one of them died. I've known this since I took my Level 1 Splankna training 2 years ago.
Since then I've worked on my son who survived the death of his twin. He no longer hates girls (his twin must have been a girl) and children. He no longer sits in his room during parties. He no longer feels like he'll never get married. He has done so much healing in the past 2 years but still there was something wrong.
I couldn't put my finger on it but my son STILL was not happy after 2 years of working on his vanished twin sister. Last night I was setting up a broadcast on my ARQ. I have worked on a young lady for 13 years who has autism. I've worked on her vanished twin and still she is living in a dark place which does not include speech.
I was praying about the broadcast when suddenly the Holy Spirit said to me, "Sarah was a triplet!" My mind went back to my Splankna training where someone in class had asked, "Can there be a survivor of 2 vanished twins." Very quickly my Instructor had nodded her head and answered, "Yes, I've worked with them."
My mind swirled. Could Sarah still be living in darkness because the trauma of loosing TWO siblings in the womb is greater than loosing ONE? Of course it is. It has to be absolutely unbearable to keep living when TWO siblings die in the womb beside you as you are growing.
Next the Holy Spirit whispered to me, "Add your son to the broadcast too!" My body jerked. "You mean my son had TWO siblings die in the womb beside him? Can that be why my son is so traumatized by life?"
My mind went back to his birth. He was blue at birth and we had to pinch him and tap him and thump him on the back to get him to breathe. The midwife wasn't there yet. Just Robert, the angels, and I were fighting to get him to take that first breath. Finally he breathed. My poor son didn't want to live without his siblings. My poor son!
So I added him to the broadcast with trembling fingers and prayers upon prayers. Finally the Lord gave me the name of one more person to add to the broadcast. This is someone that I have worked with for nearly 8 years. EIGHT YEARS OF SESSIONS AND SHE STILL HAS TROUBLE BREATHING!
So I ran the program that the Holy Spirit led me to do for these 3 suffering souls. I know that it is probably the first of many but I will do them all. Sarah will speak. Jacob will marry. C will sleep through the night without gasping for air.
WHAT A REVELATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHAT HOPE HAS GROWN IN MY HEART!!
So, after I got that all set up and running last night, I started praying and asking the Holy Spirit some questions.
"Has anyone survived the death of 3 siblings in the womb?"
He said, "Only 2 people in all of history and they only lived a couple of hours."
"Has anyone survived the death of 4 siblings in the womb?"
"NO."
"Five?"
"No"
"Six?"
"It has never happened."
I share my prayer/research findings for those of you who love someone who cannot get well or who cannot find normalcy no matter what they try or no matter how many people pray for them or no matter how many times they are anointed with oil.
They may be grieving the death of their sibling or siblings in the womb. As they grew, there were 2 or 3 of them growing together. For whatever reason, there wasn't enough nourishment or peace or room or............... and one or more of them dies.
This person loves their twin or triplet siblings! They're in the womb growing together. RIGHT BESIDE THEM THAT PERSON DIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's a tragedy!! I am weeping as I ponder it. If you are weeping as you read this, most likely you had a vanished twin too. Allow yourself time to grieve.
If prayer; talking about it; and reading about it aren't enough to get you through, I can help you professionally to recover. Leave a message in comments and I'll get in touch with you.
I share this article to help you get started recovering from your loss but you can Google 'Vanished Twin" and learn about it there too.
My love and prayers to all who are grieving a loss that nobody understands.
Dawn
PS. Way at the bottom of this post, I'm sharing a song that has always blessed me. Yes, I had a vanished twin too. Yes I know the grief of loosing my sister in the womb. Yes I know the joy of being set free from all the guilt that it was somehow my fault. Yes, there is hope! Little by little I've found joy and I'm asking the Lord for that little trickle of joy to become showers of blessings--not only for me but for all of my clients.
Vanishing Twin Syndrome
Causes, Signs, and Effects
Vanishing twin syndrome was first recognized in 1945. This occurs when a twin or multiple disappears in the uterus during pregnancy as a result of a miscarriage of one twin or multiple. The fetal tissue is absorbed by the other twin, multiple, placenta or the mother. This gives the appearance of a “vanishing twin.”
How is Vanishing Twin Syndrome identified?
Before the use of ultrasound, the diagnosis of the death of a twin or multiple was made through an examination of the placenta after delivery. Today, with the availability of early ultrasounds, the presence of twins or multiple fetuses can be detected during the first trimester. A follow-up ultrasound may reveal the “disappearance” of a twin.
For example, a woman may have an ultrasound at 6 or 7 weeks gestation. The doctor identifies two fetuses, and the woman is told she is having twins. When the woman returns for her next visit, only one heartbeat can be heard with a Doppler.
A second ultrasound is conducted, and only one fetus is observed. Additionally, some women may have symptoms that would indicate a miscarriage, although an ultrasound reveals a single baby in the uterus.
Vanishing twin syndrome has been diagnosed more frequently since the use of ultrasonography in early pregnancy. Estimates indicate that vanishing twin syndrome occurs in 21-30% of multifetal pregnancies.
What is the cause of Vanishing Twin Syndrome?
In most cases, the cause of vanishing twin syndrome is unknown. Abnormalities that result in the vanishing twin appear to be present from early in development rather than from a sudden occurrence.
Analysis of the placenta and/or fetal tissue frequently reveal chromosomal abnormalities in the vanishing twin, while the surviving twin is usually healthy. Improper cord implantation may also be a cause.
What are the effects of Vanishing Twin Syndrome on the mother and surviving twin?
If the loss occurs within the first trimester, neither the remaining fetus nor the mother generally has clinical signs or symptoms. The prognosis of the surviving twin is usually excellent, but this depends on the factors that contributed to the death of the other twin.
If the twin dies in the second or third trimester, there are increased risks to the surviving fetus, including a higher rate of cerebral palsy.
When a twin dies after the embryonic period of gestation, the water within the twin’s tissues, the amniotic fluid, and the placental tissue may be reabsorbed. This results in the flattening of the deceased twin from the pressure of the surviving twin.
At delivery, the deceased fetus may be identified as fetus compressus (compressed enough to be noticed) or as fetus papyraceous (flattened remarkably through the loss of fluid and most of the soft tissue).
What are the signs of a possible Vanishing Twin Syndrome?
Research indicates more cases in women over the age of 30. Symptoms usually begin early in the first trimester and include bleeding, uterine cramps, and pelvic pain.
What medical care is recommended for Vanishing Twin Syndrome?
No special medical care is necessary with an uncomplicated vanishing twin in the first trimester. Neither the surviving twin nor the mother would require medical treatment. If fetal death is in the second or third trimester, the pregnancy may be treated as high-risk.
Pregnant women should seek medical care if they are experiencing bleeding, cramping, and pelvic pain. Ultrasound should be used to determine that no viable fetus remains before deciding if a D&C might be indicated.
The woman can choose to wait for a natural miscarriage in many cases.
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