I found out last night that my cousin died last November. To be fair, I guess he died when I was in the hospital with pancreatitis. It would not have been good for me to learn such sad news when I was so very ill.
I don't understand why he's being buried two months later and probably none of my family understands this. Still it seems odd that no mention of my cousin's death has been made in the past two months by anyone who knew about it. Are we all sooooo busy that a man's death is irrelevant and forgettable?
The deepness of the dysfunction in my childhood family, and that extended family, has reached out and slapped me in the face once again. I'm going along just fine, totally in love with the life that Robert and I have built, and then BAM there it is again. What a sick bunch I was born into!
Well, if you've read here long, you know that I want to present answers to life's problems so that this blog lives up to it's name. Even a tiny ray of hope is better than none at all! So I went in search of some good advice for those of you who also are amazed by how a family can be either Heaven on Earth or hell on Earth.
For those of you who weren't fortunate enough to have had Heaven on Earth families, while you were growing up, this video is for you. I just watched it and it is soooo good. Even though half of my family of origin is dead, the other half is still walking around with me. We have the memories of all of the crap that went down in our incestuous household. Here's to us and to you if you need this information.
Here's to being in charge of our own feelings and knowing that we don't have to act like we like something a family member does just for the sake of "Keeping the peace." If it's harmful to me, then I must stop it!! There are several very helpful tools mentioned in this video to do just that!
Hugs everyone,
Dawn
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