Hi Everyone,
So much has happened since I've had time to write here. Yes, my son married the love of his life! Yes, the wedding was super special and yes I sang.
It was so incredible that my son picked the song that my parents had sung at their wedding "Wedding Prayer." Also his now wife picked the song that my brother sang at our wedding "God, a Woman, and a Man."
The truly incredible part is that my son took his wife 46 years after Robert took me to be his wife. They got married on our anniversary and it was oh so sweet!!!!
The bride and groom didn't take their honeymoon now as we're in harvest. They came home the day after the wedding and we started combining then. Now the soybean harvest is completed and we're waiting for the corn to dry down to start corn harvest. Prayers are appreciated for that.
I'll share pictures of the wedding when I receive them. This is one of my favorites. The wedding pictures were taken outside and there was no place to sit. When my legs gave out, I sank down on the lovely grass. Almost instantly the flower girls piled in around me and someone got this photo. I haven't felt this young in a very long time. :) The joy that day oozed out of everyone!!! It was such a super special day!!!
Being I'm a Grandma, I was drawn to this woman's posts. She has so much wisdom to share and I need it. How I wish that I could have spent more time with my own grandma's. One lived out of town and one was sickly. She died of cancer when I was in high school!
Anyway, to you Grandma's out there, if you want some simple-to-understand advice, you may want to look up this lovely lady too. Devoted Grandma
I'd best get back to work. You may recall that I am a Certified BodyTalk Practitioner for nearly 20 years. BodyTalk saved my life in 2007 when I was dying from shingles on the brain. Anyway, with the wedding and harvest activities, I got behind with my clients. Now I'm trying to get everyone feeling better again.
May God bless your new week!
Dawn
The Little Invitations Into Their World Grandkids Give Us That Most Grandmas Tend to Miss
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We grandmas sometimes wish our grandchildren would let us into their lives a little more.
We ask how school is going and get “Fine.” We ask what they’ve been doing and hear “Nothing.” Then we wonder how someone who apparently does nothing can be so difficult to get on the phone.
But sometimes, our grandkids are inviting us into their world. Their invitations simply don’t look the way we expect.
They might arrive as a silly video, a long explanation about a game, or a quiet request to come sit beside them. And because we’re waiting for a proper conversation, we can miss the conversation they’re trying to begin.
Here are some little invitations worth noticing.
1. “Grandma, Watch This!”
Sometimes it’s a cartwheel. Sometimes it’s a trick with a spoon. Sometimes it’s a jump that looks remarkably similar to the previous fourteen jumps.
It can be tempting to keep folding laundry and call out, “That’s lovely, sweetheart!”
But that little request may mean, “I’m proud of this, and I want you to share the feeling.”
We don’t have to produce a standing ovation every time. Looking up and giving a specific response—“You landed on both feet that time!”—shows them we actually saw what mattered to them.
2. They Show Us Something We Don’t Find Particularly Funny
A grandchild holds out a phone, already laughing.
We watch the video. We don’t understand it. We’re not entirely certain anything happened.
But before we say, “What on earth do you children watch these days?” we can notice that they chose to share their laughter with us.
Try asking, “Is this the one you and your friends keep quoting?”
We may never love the joke. Still, we can enjoy learning what makes them laugh. Sometimes the funniest part is watching them try to explain it to Grandma.
3. They Start Explaining Their Favorite Game
There are characters, levels, rules, and apparently a very serious problem involving someone’s missing equipment.
Meanwhile, we’re still trying to work out which little figure belongs to our grandchild.
These explanations can feel endless, but they offer us a glimpse of where our grandchild spends time, solves problems, and enjoys small victories.
Instead of pretending to understand everything, ask one honest question.
“What’s the hardest part?”
“Can you show me something you’re proud of?”
We don’t need to become experts. Being willing beginners gives them a lovely chance to teach us.
4. They Ask Us to Sit Beside Them
Grandma, come here.”We arrive expecting an urgent announcement. Instead, they pat the empty cushion and carry on drawing, watching something, or building.
Our first instinct may be to ask, “What do you need?”
Sometimes, our company is exactly what they need.
We can miss these moments because they don’t seem productive. There’s no activity to organize or important subject to discuss. Yet sitting together can be its own kind of closeness.
For a few minutes, let the dishes wait. Accept the seat they saved you.
5. They Mention the Same Friend Again and Again
We may hear a name so often that it becomes background noise.
But the friend who keeps appearing in their stories may be an important part of their everyday world.
Remembering a small detail opens the door to future conversations.
“Was Maya happy with how her audition went?”
“Did you and Ben finish your project?”
There’s no need to investigate the friendship. Simply showing that we remember helps our grandchild feel that their stories stay with us after the conversation ends.
6. They Play Us a Song
A grandchild says, “Listen to this,” and we immediately start preparing our opinion about modern music.
But they might be sharing a song because it gives them energy, reminds them of a friend, or puts a feeling into words.
Before offering a review, try asking, “What do you like most about it?”
They may point out a lyric we missed or tell us where they first heard it.
And if it isn’t our sort of music, we can still appreciate being included. Every song they share doesn’t need Grandma’s official rating.
7. They Ask About Something From Our Past
“Did you ever get left out?”
“Were you nervous when you started working?”
“Did your parents like all your friends?”
Sometimes these are ordinary questions. Other times, they’re a gentle way of approaching something personal.
We don’t have to immediately ask, “Why? What happened?”
A truthful, simple answer can give them room to decide whether to say more.
“Yes, I remember feeling left out once. It hurt more than I wanted to admit.”
Then pause. Our willingness to be human may make their own feelings easier to share.
8. They Want Us to Try Their Way of Doing Something
They offer to teach us a dance, choose a movie, or show us how to take a photograph.
We might laugh and say, “Oh, Grandma doesn’t do those things.”
Of course, we’re allowed preferences and limits. But occasionally saying yes lets them experience something special: introducing us to a part of life they enjoy.
We can be clumsy. We can need instructions twice.
A grandchild may remember Grandma’s enthusiastic attempt far longer than they remember whether she got it right.
9. They Bring Us an Unfinished Idea
They show us half a drawing, describe a business they might start, or announce that they’re thinking about joining a club.
Because we want to help, we may rush straight to suggestions.
But an unfinished idea can be tender. They may want a little company while they work out what they think.
Start with curiosity.
“What gave you that idea?”
“What part are you most excited about?”
There will be time for practical questions. First, let them enjoy telling us what has begun to grow in their imagination.
10. They Call or Text Without Much to Say
A photo of lunch. A message about the weather. A quick call while walking home.
We may find ourselves wishing they would share something more meaningful.
But everyday contact already has meaning. They saw something, had a spare minute, and thought of us.
We can meet that small invitation with something equally simple.
“That sandwich looks much better than mine!”
A connection doesn’t always need a deep conversation to keep growing. Sometimes it needs a cheerful reply.
11. They Linger When It’s Time to Go
A grandchild follows us into the kitchen, stays near the doorway, or suddenly remembers one more thing as we’re saying goodbye.
They may simply be enjoying our company. They may also be gathering the courage to bring something up.
When we can, a gentle “I’ve got a few more minutes” leaves room without demanding an explanation.
And if nothing important is said, those extra minutes still count. We don’t have to turn every quiet moment into a confession.
The lovely thing about these invitations is that most ask very little of us. A bit of attention. An honest question. A willingness to be interested before we understand.
We’ll miss some. We’re human, and sometimes we really do need to get dinner out of the oven.
But we can also circle back.
“You wanted to show me something earlier. I’m ready now.”
Our grandkids’ world will keep changing as they grow. Paying attention to these little openings gives us more chances to know the people they’re becoming and more chances to enjoy being welcomed in.
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